I love that point in a friendship when you get what the other person’s style is - their “thing.” You see a knit jersey tie and think of them immediately; a type of weather, a bad movie, a woman’s outfit. You know, with absolute certainty, that your friend would enjoy this thing with you more than anyone else in the world. You feel closer in that moment of recognition, even if they’re not there.
When I started making those weird voices, a lot of people told me how whack it was,” she says, “‘What the fuck are you doing?’ they’d say. ‘Why do you sound like that? That doesn’t sound sexy to me.’ And then I started saying, Oh, that’s not sexy to you? Good. I’m going to do it more. Maybe I don’t want to be sexy for you today.
You had sex when you’re 14? that’s your choice, you go glen coco, that is okay
You don’t want to have sex till you are married? That takes guts and that is okay
You have a fuck buddy in highschool? Not everyone likes commitment and that is okay
You are asexual and don’t like sex? That’s your sexuality, embrace it, that is okay
But you know what isn’t okay? Shaming people for their sex lives, that is not okay.
- mental illness doesnt go away just because you fall in love
- if someone is ill and you want to be in a relationship with them dont expect to cure them
- their disease is not going to disappear so that you can have your happy ending